You see the guy that you are interested in standing not too far away from you in a room full of people. You want to approach him and talk with him but your heart is about to burst due to nerves and your feet will not let you take a single step in his direction. Are you really just going to let the opportunity to make his acquaintance pass you by and then proceed to live with the regret of not taking a chance? Why so? Are you really that afraid?
If ever you find yourself in a situation similar to the one posed above, you should ask yourself this: “What is the worst that can happen?” It cannot be as bad as your imagination is making it out to be therefore you should work up the courage to do what you truly want to do. Nine times out of ten, we restrict our own selves from obtaining happiness.
In a beautiful and relatable song entitled “Not Tonight,” songstress Elle Varner sings about the fear of approaching a potential love interest. The song’s chorus goes as follows:
Maybe, maybe in another life
I could be the girl who walks up to the guy
And tells him, tells him how she feels inside
But, not tonight, no not tonight
We have all at some time or another felt that same reluctance to put our thoughts into action that Varner sings about but, why not tonight? Why not make that move? Waiting simply prolongs the agony.
At a later point in “Not Tonight” Varner sings:
Who would I be to make my feelings known
I need a little audacity but it’s not in my bones
I’m standing here, terrified
Broken hearted, I could die
Who would you be if you worked up enough courage to walk over to the guy you liked and engaged in conversation or perhaps even a dance with him? A strong woman. One not afraid to go for it, give things a try. One who realizes that you must live the one life you were given freely and without restraint as long as you are not hurting anyone…..or yourself.
So, don’t be terrified the next time you come face to face with that special someone, the one who makes butterflies swarm in your stomach without them even knowing it. Just inhale, exhale, and say hello.